Reason to Under Achieve No. 6 Lack of Support from a Mastermind Alliance

When you set big goals for yourself you need support to help you achieve them. As I mentioned earlier you will have the nay sayers lining up to tell you why something won’t work, but what you need is positive, affirming support.

Mastermind Groups or Mastermind Alliances as they are sometimes known is one of the best ways. This group will be a network of people who see more in you than you see in yourself. They will be big thinkers, supporters, like minded people that you can rely on to hold up the highest vision of who you are.

The question here is “Where can I find an alliance that will support me in achieving my dreams?”

What happens in a mastermind alliance will vary, some groups contain people from different professions who come together to offer their expertise to each other.

How your group works and what it does is ultimately down to the group. The most important thing to remember is that dreams are not achieved alone. Even if you work alone it is important to your business that you have contact with others if you intend to make money!

Knowing that you have your own alliance that is available to you whenever you find yourself in need of motivation, or experiencing a challenge, or when you just want to share a success is an important and worthwhile investment of your time.

Reason to Under Achieve No 7 Wasting Precious Life On Regrets

We all have things that didn’t work out. Things that we would have done differently, and it’s always good to take a long hard look at the impact our actions have in our life and on other people.

It’s also good to spend some time in reflection looking at what you will do differently next time and how you can learn from your mistakes.

But ultimately, you have to LET IT GO! Let go of the past, focus on what’s great in your life right now, and create a compelling future for what will be.

Every minute, hour, week, month and year you waste on blaming, shaming, criticising and regret does nothing but reduce the happiness you can experience in your own life. It robs you of your passion to move forward and look at “what’s next?”

The question here is “What stories can I give up about events in the past, the giving up of which will help me to move forward?”

Take a long hard look at the business deals that didn’t work out, the partner that didn’t support, the people that “did stuff to you.” Are you ready to let it all go?

This is not about blame. Maybe what they did was wrong, but by you continually focusing on it that will not make it right, or change what happened. Is it time to find another way?

Reason to Under Achieve No. 8 I’m Not Good Enough

This has to be one of the biggest barriers for women. Growing up believing that they were not good enough and it took me years to work through this particular “demon”.

Thinking, feeling and believing that you are not good enough is confidence enemy number 1! You need to make a commitment to actively seek personal and professional help to overcome it.

The question here is “How long have I believed I am not good enough and what am I going to do to change this story? (Which is totally not true I might add!)”

Overcoming this belief is a work in progress, but the reward far outweighs the “work”

I want to end this with a plea. If you are a woman with children please watch what you say to them, children are literal creatures and will believe every thought you put in their head.

Please nourish them with positive affirmations about being capable, lovable and able to succeed at whatever they put their minds too.

And please no longer allow other people to indulge in calling your child(ren) names. Not even the little pet “you clumsy thing, you” that Grandparents may lovingly say when they drop the plate of cookies.

Growing up believing you are not good enough is one of the most damaging things to go through. Having said that, when you are willing to work through it, it can also provide you with the energy to be the best that you can be.

Reason to Under Achieve No. 9 I tried for a while but it didn’t work.

I am always amazed at the number of times clients say to me “but Diane. I have been thinking positively for 4 weeks now and nothings working!”

Let’s have some reality here shall we! When you spend 10, 15, 30 years thinking and behaving a certain way, your way of being does not magically shift overnight! Now whilst I am an optimist and I believe that anything is possible, even I have a limit on this one!!!!

Changing your mindset takes time, taking yourself from negative thinking to positive is a journey.

The question here is “What action(s) am I ready to take to ensure I effortlessly move through these stages with every new learning experience?”

In the world of personal development you will go through many stages and you can never measure exactly how long each stage will take.

If you read a book a year chances are it will take you a long while, if you read a book a week, listen to audios, attend seminars and take action and use what you have learnt, chances are you will move through them very quickly.

During this journey you will always be taking 20 steps forward and 5 steps back. This is the way of life. Embrace and accept it, rather than make it wrong. Each step back will allow you to go even further forward if you take the time to listen to it.

Reason to Under Achieve No. 10 Lack of vision and focus!

I won’t hit you with all the clich