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Huna Is The Secret!

“If you are not using Huna, you are working too hard!” – Max Freedom Long

Huna, the Hawaiian spiritual healing, literally means “Secret”. It is believed to be the “hidden knowledge” about life and this world. In his book, “Secrets of the Millionaire Mind”, T. Harv Eker uses the Huna philosophy in a Wealth Principle.

Historically, the “Kahuna” was the spiritual master or shaman who was the guardian of the Huna knowledge and tradition. When the English settled in the Hawaiian Islands the practice of Huna was banned and the Kahunas went into hiding. Today these practices are emerging once again to guide us.

Huna is a life philosophy or wisdom about the world that you live in. It teaches that there are no limits to what you can accomplish, based on human psychology that emphasizes basic, normal living. It presents a road map for traveling through life. When used regularly, Huna is life changing.

Isn’t it interesting that a philosophy developed tens of thousands of years ago is still appropriate for living your lives, even today?

There are seven basic principles of Huna. These principles of life are simple yet powerful.

1.IKE – The world is what you think it is.

Everything in your world, everything in your own reality, comes from your thoughts. According to the Huna belief, if you wish to change our world, you must first change your thoughts. Start by changing the way you think, going from a belief in lack to a belief in abundance. All the other principles of Huna are developed from this one.

2.KALA – There are no limits.

Everything in the universe is connected. There is no separation and no limits. Separation is merely an illusion. It is only your thoughts that make you believe we are separate from the rest. The limits you see and fear you cannot conquer exists in your minds only. According to the Huna belief, if you rid yourselves of these thoughts of separateness and limitations, you will reconnect and become one again.

One popular expression used in the Islands is “hang loose”. What happens is that when you get uptight, you create a tension, which in turn causes the separation. When you “hang loose,” you relax, feel better, your relationships become better, and you go with the flow. Kala does not mean that you accept things as they are; only that if you relax with them, you can change them more easily.

3.MAKIA – Energy flows where attention goes.

Wherever there is a flow of energy and attention, events and results are created. The fundamental principle of creating results is: Attention + Energy + Ideas + Action = Results.

Focusing your attention on a particular object or idea causes the energy to flow in that direction. Whatever the nature of your thoughts is, you feel that flow in return. Positive energy put out into the universe, means positive energy flowing back to you. If you consistently put out thoughts of abundance into the universe, then abundance flows back to you. Do not focus on anger or fear, but on happiness and joy. Change your attention and you change your world.

4.MANAWA – Now is the moment of power.

There is no power in the past and no power in the future. There is only power in this moment. All the power for changing your life exists only in the immediate present. The present is where we can perform action that matters for the future.

The past has no power over you, so you must release the burdens of the past. Whatever thoughts you possess are what you will bring with you into this moment. Appreciating what’s around you causes it to increase. The more you take pleasure in what’s around you, the stronger it becomes. According to the Huna belief, the future does not lay waiting for you to move forward and run into it. It is created in every present moment by what you think right now. Getting rid of the past creates a new future.

5.ALOHA – To love is to be happy with.

In the Hawaiian language, aloha stands for much more than just “hello”, “goodbye”, or “love.” Its deeper meaning is “the joyful (oha) sharing (alo) of life energy (ha) in the present (alo).”

The root of the word means, “to be happy with.” The secret here is to be happy with something or someone. The degree of your happiness dictates the degree to which you are in love.

The expression of love is important. Criticism, anger, and unhappiness will diminish that love and cause pain around you. Love does not mean inflicting pain, hurting people, or getting you hurt. Love means savoring the happiness, the joy, and the pleasure in any relationship.

6.MANA – All power comes from within.

Hawaiian belief is that Mana is the name for the one source of all the power that exists in the universe. This belief assumes that there is only one source of power and that the source flows through each of us on the planet. It flows not only through human beings, but also through the earth and everything that lives on or above it. This Mana gives us the power to do what we believe we can do.

Mana is considered the inner power that gives each thing its own creativity. The important idea here is that power comes from within. Nothing outside of yourself has any power over you. Your very existence stems from this power within; and if you believe that something else has any real power over you, it diminishes your own power. Holding it back, trying to tamp it down, or pretending you don’t have the power, also diminishes it. By allowing yourself to experience this power, to feel it, to use it, and claim it, gives you the power to reach your highest potential.

7.PONO – Effectiveness is the measure of truth.

There are many ways to do most things. Don’t think that you can only achieve something in one way or that there is only one truth. There is no one way to do anything. There is always an alternative. There is no one truth, or one method or technique. There is no one kind of medicine or one way to be happy. The ways you can use to achieve your goals and attain happiness are countless.

Your purpose or plan may be of utmost importance, but the methods to achieving them are vast. Use the proper means to achieve the goal. According to this principle of Huna, if you start out with peace in your heart, you will move towards peace in your life. This principle is a practical truth and may be used as a way of living with others and yourself.

Huna principles will work for everyone. Huna is about miracles, self-reliance and empowerment. It is balanced and powerful. It is a transforming system of practices, teachings, philosophy, energy work, and much more.

Tinnitus – The 3 Emotional Stages

It is a vicious cycle because tinnitus causes stress and anxiety and is also worsened by stress and anxiety. Worrying over the tinnitus can cause it to become worse. Lack of sleep due to ringing in the ears leads to fatigue which makes the ear ringing worse. These are just some of the mental and emotional side effects of tinnitus.
Expel tinnitus and the roller coaster of emotions:

At times it may be more annoying for people who do not know what is wrong with them or who have non-supportive doctors that tell them to “get over it” or to find a way to live with tinnitus.

It is a vicious cycle because tinnitus causes stress and anxiety and is also worsened by stress and anxiety. Worrying over the tinnitus can cause it to become worse. Lack of sleep due to ringing in the ears leads to fatigue which makes the ear ringing worse. These are just some of the mental and emotional side effects of tinnitus.

Many people with a hissing in the ears, like me, will discover that it completely interferes with natural essential functions of their lives. You may have a hard time concentrating, remembering things, listening to others and focusing on tasks. This makes it nearly impossible to function properly on a job or in society.

Many people with tinnitus go through the same process as people with other medical conditions and disorders. At first you may feel denial, then anger and frustration (especially if you are being told there is no cure and nothing will help) and then you may feel hopeless and depressed. You will think why this had to happen to you and harp on the fact that your life will never be the same. Next comes fear.

You may worry that you will never live a normal life again, fear that this ringing in the ears will cause havoc with your job and your family, fear that you will never be able to enjoy the same things and fear that you are going crazy or that there is something mentally “wrong” with you. At some point along the way if you hope to find relief, you will need to find acceptance.

Acceptance- With acceptance comes the realization that while you do have this condition and there is no cure for ear ringing, that doesn’t mean you have to be a victim for the rest of your life.

You will soon come to the realization that there is hope for your tinnitus and that you have stopped focusing on the ear ringing all the time you can allow your body to start the recovery. Also one should also take note of the fact that this roller coaster of emotions does not only effect the tinnitus sufferer but their families as well.

Think Passionately!

Your life changes the moment you make a new, congruent, and committed decision.
– Anthony Robbins

All stories of success have one common element. You guess right, that is Passion. Passion for what they want to achieve. Enough passion to keep their eyes from wandering away from the goal. Total passion to finally see them through.

Passionate beliefs often make great sacrifices look easy and are the foundation of success. Goutham Buddha, at the age of 29, followed his urge for knowledge. He left his wife, son and kingdom to be one with the sufferings of normal human beings. After going through hardship and pain he finally experienced enlightenment. More than 1500 years after his enlightenment, the Talibans may be out to destroy his statues, but Buddhism remains one of the strongest religions in the world.

Che Guevara, inspite of being an Argentine, went to Cuba and fought its battle of independence for the sake of his ideology. And then he quit his top ministerial posts in Cuba to fight for African countries before coming to Bolivia and meeting his end. Che, of course, failed in most of his wars against oppressors, yet he achieved what he always wanted.

It was this passion for being unique that made a young boy stand at the centre of the Sydney cricket ground and tell his father “I shall never be satisfied until I play on this ground” and then not just playing there but creating history as Sir Don Bradman. He was passionate about his game and ended his career with a record average of 99.96 runs.

Aung San Suu Kyi’s passion for a non-violent struggle for democracy has won her a Nobel Prize. Stephen Hawking’s incurable motor-neuron disease couldn’t stop his passion for Physics and the universe. ‘Being kicked out of school’ Bill Gates passion for winning made him world’s leading business tycoon. All the self-made millionaires on the globe scripted their success stories out of their passionate goals. Not only did they know what they wanted but they are people who believed passionately that they CAN.

If you think you CAN you are right. Just be passionate about it. And if you lack passion, then develop it because success never comes till you are passionate about it.

Declutter Your Life

De-cluttering your physical space can have an amazingly uplifting effect on your mood. Feng Shui experts claim that buildings and furniture store the memories of events in the form of energy, and that by de-cluttering you can clear the energy of historic traumatic events. Whether or not you put any store in that kind of theory, nobody who has ever de-cluttered a space could deny the positive benefits of increasing the physical space in their environment.

However, physical de-cluttering can also have a cathartic effect on people emotionally. When we let go of things we’ve been hoarding for a long time, we often let go of emotional memories we’ve been hanging onto along with them (albeit unconsciously), and so by clearing physical clutter you can clear space in your head and in your heart as well as your home.

Clutter though is not only physical. We can also have mental and emotional clutter blocking the flow of energy in our lives, and clearing this out is guaranteed to help improve our emotional wellbeing. Examples include undone/unfinished tasks; people/activities that drain you of energy; remaining angry at people; busyness – filling up your schedule with activities you feel duty-bound to do, and leaving no time to nourish your soul and refresh your body.

Some tips for clearing your physical clutter:

Look at your home and identify the areas that need decluttering. Break it down into small tasks that can be tackled over a period of time, rather than one big project to be done in a day. Start small with everyday areas like the kitchen table and build momentum towards the areas you avoid because the idea of tackling them is just overwhelming.

Go through your stuff and for each item ask yourself Do I love it? Do I need it? Do I use it? If you can answer yes to any of them, it stays. If it’s no to all, then it goes.

Divide everything into four piles: Keep, Recycle, Donate and Dump. As soon as you’re done, remove the items that aren’t staying straight away and deliver them to their new destination.

Once your big clear out is done, avoid a new build up by clearing out little and often.

Tips for clearing your Mental/Emotional Clutter:

Make a list of anything you’ve been procrastinating over, and ask yourself why you have been putting it off. What can you tackle and what can you let go of? When you’re clear on what you definitely has to be done, make a plan and get to it.

Stop worrying. There is nothing constructive about worrying it won’t help you avoid the outcome you’re worrying about and it’ll destroy your ability to enjoy the present. When a worrying thought arises, quash it straight away and sing along with me “Everything’s gonna be alright, everything’s gonna be alright…” Focus your energy on what you’d like to happen instead.

Follow through on promises and commitments. When you’ve said you’ll do something but you keep putting it on the long finger, it drains you of energy. If you can’t or don’t want to see them through, then be upfront about it and withdraw your promise.

Let go of anger and forgive. When somebody hurts you badly, it’s a normal response to feel anger, and to not want to forgive. But anger is bad for your health, both physical and emotional, so it’s actually in your interests to let it go and forgive the other person. Forgiving them doesn’t mean you have to welcome them back into your life with open arms, it just means letting go of the memory of what they’ve done to you and the feelings that go with it. Maybe the other person doesn’t deserve forgiveness, but don’t you deserve to move on and leave the pain behind?

Say no to people and activities that drag you down. Instead, surround yourself with people who uplift you and do things that make you feel great!

As with your physical clear out, don’t make this a once-off project or an irregular purge. Develop clutter free habits in every aspect of your life, and you will enjoy an easier flow through life on a continuous basis.

Does Sedona Method Really Work?

The Sedona method claims it is a really simple way to help you to improve your life. But does the Sedona method really work?

Well, as with everything else in life, the answer is yes and no. If you let the Sedona method work for you, the answer is a resounding “Yes”. If you fight against it and refuse to do the very simple exercises involved, then the answer won’t be as positive.

But then, what would be the point in going as far as purchasing the Sedona method and then fighting it? That would be daft.

Especially when it’s so simple.

If you can ask yourself three simple questions, then you can carry out the process involved in the Sedona method.

You can ask the questions out loud (providing no-one nearby will think you’re just going crazy) or in your head.

First, you should identify the feeling that you most want to deal with. It could be anything. I’d suggest starting with something small first, such as that annoying advert you’ve just watched.

Then just ask yourself the three simple questions identified in the Sedona method.

Remember, there are no right or wrong answers. If you want to hold onto the feeling of being annoyed for the next decade, that’s fine. It might seem increasingly silly as you go through the questions again. But it’s an OK answer!

Repeating this on a number of occasions, you’ll find your feeling start to disappear. Maybe not on the first or second question round. But after, say, five or ten repetitions you’ll start to question why the problem ever bugged you in the first place.

It really is that simple. And it really works!

Make using the Sedona method part of your daily routine, a bit like cleaning your teeth, and you’ll start to notice a change for the better in your life.

The Four Stages Of Learning On The Path To Mastery

Whenever you learn a new skill, you go through four stages of learning. Some people berate themselves if they don’t immediately master a new skill. They forget that there’s a normal progression involved. Keeping these stages in mind will help you avoid frustration as you progress along the path to mastery.

The four stages are:

Unconscious incompetence
Conscious incompetence
Conscious competence
Unconscious competence

The time it takes to progress through these stages may vary, but this progression is unavoidable.

Here’s what each stage is about.

Unconscious Incompetence

At this stage, a person is incompetent at a skill but isn’t aware that they lack it because they don’t know it exists. They’re incompetent and unaware of it. This stage lasts as long as the person remains in the dark about other possibilities.

As an example, imagine a child who had only seen shoes with Velcro closures. They are incompetent at tying shoelaces, but aren’t aware of it because they’re never seen them.

When a person becomes aware of knowledge they lack, they enter the next phase.

Conscious Incompetence

Once the person knows they lack a skill, they are still incompetent at it. The difference is now they know. This creates the possibility of learning.

The child has seen shoes with laces and realizes that they don’t know how to tie them. It’s at this stage that learning begins.

Someone shows the child how to tie a shoelace and they begin practicing. At first they won’t be very good at it. They’re still incompetent consciously incompetent.

This phase lasts for a variable amount of time depending on the difficulty of the skill as well the abilities and diligence of the person learning it. More difficult skills take longer to acquire. A person with more talent finds progress easier. More practice results in more progress.

The next stage slowly emerges.

Conscious Competence

Gradually, the student improves and eventually becomes competent at the task. However, at first performing competently requires their full attention. This is the stage of conscious competence.

The child can tie their shoe quite well, but they need to focus to do it. Slowly, gradually the skill becomes easier to perform. It requires less intense focus. It flows more smoothly and automatically.

Eventually, they arrive at the last stage…

Unconscious Competence

This is the phase of most adults with regards to tying shoelaces they do it quite well without ever having to think about it. In this phase a person performs competently automatically.

There are many skills we pick up and become unconsciously competent at. Anyone who’s learned to drive a standard transmission remembers their first lurching starts. Over time, that complex skill became automatic.

Skills you work on now may be the same way. At first they’ll seem difficult. They’ll require your full attention. You won’t be very good at them. You’ll feel awkward.

Remember that this phase is normal. Gradually and steadily you’ll improve. Before long what was a foreign skill will be second nature. Just like tying a shoe.

Thinking About Thinking – Part 1of 2

How much time do you spend just thinking? Take a guess – how much during any given day, week or month? I’m don’t mean the kind of thinking you do while driving in your car, commuting on the train, during your morning run, or even in the shower. I’m referring to the kind of thinking you do ensconced in your office, or your den, or perhaps your garden. You are not reading a book or a magazine, nor watching TV, nor listening to music. You are simply thinking.

How much time do you spend doing that? Most of you will answer little to none. Many people consider spending time “just thinking” to be a luxury. After all, you have real problems – customers, employees, investors – all wanting some of your time, all wanting you to do something. And in our action driven society, we need to be doing something – much of the time we seem to be doing two or three things at once. But thinking?

It seems silly to rhetorically ask why this is so important. Thinking is the process by which companies and people create intellectual capital and knowledge. Thinking is the way we actively develop new ideas, rather than reacting to our current circumstances. Thinking is how we invent strategy. Thinking is one of the hardest things there is for people to do, let alone do well. But to figure out how to make the most of your precious resources, to leap ahead of your competition, and to master the ever-accelerating pace of change, you have no choice. You have to think about things.

There seem to be two broad categories of thinking. One category consists of free-form activities like daydreaming and meditating, and I will address these in a later column. The second category includes the disciplined process of asking questions and trying to answer them. This is the practical side of thinking and is the perspective of this article. Does it make sense to write a brief article about thinking? Not a learned, academic treatise on cognitive science – but a short pragmatic missive, practical and prescriptive. I think so. I think clarifying the concept of thinking gives people a way – a process – and perhaps provides greater access to thinking.

When I think about the issue of thinking, what am I really doing? I am asking a question – I actually say to myself – “what is thinking?” I might further ask, “what does my mind do when I try to think?” Or maybe, “How can I think without asking a question?” And so on. I don’t get very far with all of this, because no matter how I try to direct my thoughts, I discover that I am always asking a question. Every single time.

This would be hard enough if all there was to it was asking good questions. But for the process to be of real value, I have to consider answering the questions as well. Or at least I have to consider possible answers. So my simple definition of thinking is: asking questions and considering possible answers.

Why don’t I just say answering questions rather than considering possible answers? Because generating definitive, single-pointed answers is only one kind of thinking. The second, perhaps more powerful kind of thinking – particularly in the realm of strategy – is known as inquiry. In the process of inquiry, you ask questions and look at possible answers. Your goal is not a definitive answer, for that would bring the inquiry to a close. Rather you peel back the question, like the leaves of an artichoke, revealing more questions, and more possible answers, and so on. At some point, you get to the heart of the matter, just as you get to the heart of the artichoke.

To think about an issue, focus your mind by asking one or more germane questions. Each question should be designed to elicit a response driving your mind in a particular direction. You can ask questions serially, answering each in turn, or stack your questions one on top of another, attempting to answer the whole lot of them at once when the time is right. Sometimes your answers will give birth to more questions. Even your unanswered questions will sometimes yield more questions.

When do you cease asking questions? When you have thought the thing through – when you have developed sufficient ideas that profoundly illuminate your original question.

There are other criteria for stopping your questioning. You might decide to inquire into an issue for a fixed period of time, say thirty minutes, or seven days. Or, you might ask a question with the intent of coming up with fifteen or twenty new and provocative answers. You might decide to keep asking questions until your answers yield no further questions, or until your questions yield no further answers. You might not decide any of these things and simply stop when it feels right – when you feel you have the “right” answer. Or you might not stop at all, instead engaging in the question continually.

Then there is the issue of answers. I’ve always liked those 8-Ball fortune geegaws which offer the same answers no matter the question. But what distinguishes thinking from mere questioning is developing answers authentically and responsibly. I think it is the commitment to come up with a useful answer, rather than saying “I don’t know” or simply trotting out some time-worn old bit you know will fit, but not really add anything.

Many times you have no idea as to what an answer might be. What do you do then? One of my favorite perspectives is, “Well if you did know the answer, what would it be?” Another useful perspective is to simply invent an answer. Make one up and see if it fits. Trust your subconscious. Access all of your stored knowledge and experience – it just might come through for you. I think that is thinking.

What kind of questions should you ask? I have no idea, but it’s a good question. Since I am unable to answer it, I have decided instead to offer 16 questions about strategic direction. I think these questions are worth asking. Please substitute we for I, our for my, my company for I and me, as appropriate.

What is my purpose?
What do I want (to be, to do, to have) that I do not already (be, do, have)?
What am I thinking is the real thing, when “the real thing” is simply substituting for something that can really make a difference?
In what ways am I being effective? In what ways am I not being effective?
What isn’t getting done that needs to get done?
What doesn’t exist in our market, which people want, and we could deliver?
What other ways would people like to get what we give them?
What are we doing that we want to stop doing?
What would make us happy?
What did I forget?
When will we be ready?
How hard are we willing to try to make it easy?
What aren’t we taking on because we don’t think we know how?
What is the most important thing, right now? What will be the most important thing next month?
Who could help us?
Where are we looking for answers, and where not?

I hope these questions get you thinking.

Believing is the Absence of Doubt

You’ve heard the expression, “Just believe it and it will come.” Well, technically, that is true, however, ‘believing’ is not just thinking that you can have it; it is also feeling that it is possible. When we believe that we can “have it,” that means we have no doubt in receiving it.

In the formula for Deliberate Attraction:

(1) Identify Desire

(2) Raise the Vibration (feeling)

(3) Allow it

the allowing of your desire can come to you very quickly providing you have no resistance to receiving it.

Resistance = Doubt

When you remove the ‘doubt’ that you can have what you want, you are allowing and that is how it can come to you.

Tools for allowing:

There are a number of tools, techniques and strategies that can help you remove the doubt (resistance). Here is one that I like best.

Ask yourself this question:

“Is there anyone on the planet doing or having what you desire?”

For example, if your desire is to attract your ideal client, or your ideal relationship, then you could ask yourself: “Is there anyone on the planet who has attracted their ideal client?”

Yes, there are millions of people on the planet who have attracted their ideal clients.

NOW THIS FEELS POSSIBLE!

And when it feels possible, you have removed doubt.

And when you remove the doubt, the universal Law of Attraction can bring your desires to you.

When using the formula for Deliberate Attraction, spend most of your time “Allowing,” as it determines how quickly, or slowly, your desires will come to you.

Mind Over Matter: The Power Of Thoughts

One of the greatest challenges in life is understanding just how powerful our thoughts are. Many of us learn this the hard way – myself included. After spending most of my early life caught up in negative thought patterns, it occurred to me that I had created exactly what I had been thinking about all those years.

I worked at a stressful, unfulfilling job. I had an extremely low income, and no matter how hard I tried to improve my financial situation, I was always broke. I struggled with various addictions. I was alone, and felt I deserved to be alone for the rest of my life. Obviously, I had no self-esteem. It took me many years to realize that I was creating ALL of it. Why would a person want to create such frustration and hardship? I didn’t want to, I just didn’t know how not to. I didn’t realize I had a choice in the matter.

While I do believe that there is such a thing as fate or destiny, there are far fewer instances of that in our lives than we think. More often than not, our thoughts work against us and we can live our entire lives being completely unaware of it. The good news is that we can consciously choose to have our thoughts work for us, rather than against us. All it takes is the willingness to believe it’s possible, and of course, the willingness to do the work required.

Okay, so how do we change our thoughts? By purposely feeding our minds more positive material. Remember that your life as it exists today is the direct result of your past and present beliefs about yourself. You may or may not be aware of these beliefs on a conscious level, but that doesn’t matter. The most important thing is to begin changing those beliefs NOW. This will eventually override the negative messages, and your life will change. Whether you want to lose a few pounds, make more money, meet your soulmate or write a best-selling novel, know that you DO have the power to do it.

The first step is to convince yourself that you deserve it. That is probably the most difficult thing to change for most of us. Know that the universe wants you to be happy, fulfilled and prosperous. Why? Simply because you can effect more positive growth for the rest of the planet also. Think about that for a moment. If you are constantly struggling to make ends meet, or feeling drained and stressed by your job, or overwhelmed by personal struggles, how much are you able to help others who are in even worse situations? Probably not much. If things are going very well for you and you have plenty of resources at your disposal, you can then use those resources to help others and make a real difference in this world. This works on two levels. First, you are able to help others by donating time and/or money. Secondly, and even more importantly, you serve as an example to others that they can also become happy, fulfilled and prosperous – if they will only change their thoughts.

The second step is to take some time to figure out exactly what you want to create next. Be creative with it, and don’t limit yourself. Dare to dream big. Even if your dream seems impossible, write it out in full detail. You can choose to work only on one aspect of your life, or several at the same time.

The third step is then to begin visualizing this dream of yours as often as you can. Don’t just “see” it in your mind, really LIVE it. Feel how you will feel when it becomes reality. Know that this dream of yours is very possible. This will generate positive energy that will actually attract the opportunities and circumstances you need to help this reality form in the physical world.

Finally, begin taking action on your dream. It doesn’t matter how large or small the steps you take. The most important thing is that you do what you can to create more openings in your life for the new circumstances to enter. If your goal is to increase your income, you may need to apply for a better job or start your own business. If you are seeking to meet someone, you may need to become more active socially. Again, do something to help this reality manifest.

Our thoughts create an irresistible magnetism around us that attracts certain energies, which then causes the formation of certain circumstances. By replacing old, negative thought patterns with positive, faith-filled energy, our lives will change for the better. Once again, we will have created exactly what we’ve been thinking about. Mind Over Matter

Teen Self Help

Getting through the teenage years is often one of the hardest parts of a person’s entire life. This is a time when emotions run high and changes are taking place at an astronomical rate. Oftentimes, a person doesn’t have the time to catch up with what is happening to them and a lot of big mistakes are likely to happen.

The early years of high school and college are also a time where things may not always be as they seem to be on the surface. Those who are largely successful in high school often find that college is a completely different world and the qualities that seemed so important in their earlier years are no longer admired or sought after in the later years. These transitions can be hard for many people and being able to foresee the things that will truly be important when you get older is not always the easiest thing for many people. Even those who can see the future quite clearly will oftentimes be intimidated by their younger peers to get off course and to pursue a less beneficial route over the long term. Later on, we see them suffering for their mistakes but there is little that can be done since life is mainly a training ground for the wise.

When you are going through your teen years, one of the wisest things that you can carry with you is an understanding or awareness that things aren’t going to be this way for very long. People around you are all getting older and it happens quite fast so that the things that seemed so extremely important in high school become relatively unimportant later on. A terrible heartbreak or a losing season on the school’s basketball team can often send a teenager into a sense of emotional turmoil unless they are able to see the long term picture of their lives. Even something as terrible as becoming an outcast in high school or getting beat up and humiliated after school is something that eventually can be seen as nothing more than a bad set of circumstances that has very little to do with who you really are inside as a person.

Life is much bigger than just the teenage years and yet, these years tend to seem as if they are everything and the newness of emotional experiences as a teen tend to make these illusions seem even more real. It’s best to remember that life goes on for many decades after high school and the people you see around you today will be completely different in only a few short years. They will seem like entirely different people altogether after ten or twenty years. Adults love to say “You haven’t changed a bit!” but the opposite is actually the case when they really look at who they were in their early years. The wisest of the young people will see this and won’t take anything to terribly serious whenever it goes wrong. Set your goals for the long haul and don’t get thrown to far when something doesn’t go quite right. You’ve got your whole life ahead of you and it’s very likely to be impossible for you to comprehend such a large span of time!

Teen self help is all about learning to cope with the troubling emotions that are so new and can sometimes overwhelm you and seem like they might just contribute to the end of the world. Looking for the big picture and learning how to move on from a problem is a great ability to have when you are young. It makes it possible to reassess your course as you go and to better determine what you really want to be as you get older. It also helps you to choose your friends more carefully and stand up for who you are. Learning to face your fears and develop a sense of courage is something that can lead you through anything in life and bring you out the other end as a great success. There’s no better time in your life than the teen years and also, quite often, no worse time either. Don’t let the ups and downs overwhelm you too soon as we want you along for the entire ride!