We lose our love for those who want to control, suppress or use us when we believe that:
a. Others want to control me.
b. I must do what others want in order to have their love and be safe.
c. I am in danger if I do not do what others want.
d. I cannot love someone who does not do what I want and thus others will not love me if I do not do what they want.
e. I am the victim.
f. I will not be a good person if I say no.
g. I am weak and cannot protect myself.
h. …
You eventually reach a point in your life when you’re ready for change and a whole bunch of information that’ll help you unleash your personal development potential. Until then, something can stare at you right under your nose but you don’t see it.
For instance, when you look at a painting, you can’t really appreciate it when it’s just an inch away from your face. But if you look at it from a little further back, you’ll have a clearer vision of the whole artwork.
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If the others were five years old, would we be offended and outraged by their egotistical behavior? Or would we continue to love them, whil…
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Another New Year is upon us. You’ve probably got lots of grand plans for change. We all know that every year we start out with good intentions and within a few weeks the drive and motivation diminishes. If you are ready to make a lasting change that positively impacts your life, get the ball rolling with a well thought out plan for change. The first thing I recommend is look at what you want in your life right now. The second is to pick one habit that you could change or crea…
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It occurred to me the other day that it doesn’t matter what I’m learning about,…
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Most of you know who Napoleon Hill is. But for the benefit of those who don’t, Mr. Hill is quite arguably the author of the world’s first practical philosophy of human achievement. Commissioned back in 1908 by the great steel magnate, Andrew Carnegie…
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The other day I was clearing out my home office in preparation for our upcoming move, when I stumbled upon a box of supplies left over from an old business opportunity I had undertaken several years ago. It was a perfectly fine business opportunity, but it wasn’t for me. Looking back, I knew even then that it wasn’t right for me, but I had determinedly ignored my inner voice and pursued it anyway.
As I sorted through this box of paperwork and supplies, I felt my face flame…